When I’m good I’m very good but when I’m bad, watch out! There are times that something upsets me so much that I feel like I’ll suffocate if I don’t let my thoughts out. The problem is that when I get this way, I have all the tact of a rabid pitbull. My inner bitch is quite snarky and ruthless, thank goodness she’s on my side!
Now, a nice person would visit a forum on Blog Catalog, see a post that upsets them or is filled with blatant stupidity and move on. Not me. My inner bitch will not let anything slide. She demands to debate, in an Amazon Queen kind of way. She wants her displeasure to be known to all.
Today, I was looking through Blog Catalog and I came across a comment that really got to me. Rather than taking the high road, I replied. This individual then proceeded to write an entire post dedicated to the subject, and directly quoted me. Amazon Queen Antibarbie was then unleashed.
My response to their post was so venomously sarcastic that if I had spit on the floor during that time, I think it probably would have worn a hole right through the wood. My reply was so sharp that the person sent me an email to apologize and make amends which, I must admit, does make me feel a tad bit guilty.
Logically, I know that there are going to be all kinds in a place like Blog Catalog. There are some really helpful folks there but with the good comes the bad. It’s amazing how many downright delusional people run blogs. Self-appointed messiahs and people who insist that there are subliminal messages in their Rice Crispies Cereal tend to pop up from time to time to discuss their latest findings and I just want to bang my head into the keyboard until I pass out.
Why in the world do I let annoying people affect me so much? No matter where I go there is going to be someone who rubs me the wrong way. I can’t avoid it. Why, oh why can’t I just learn to stuff my malcontent into a tiny little ball and drop it like people normally do? I worry that if I just shut my mouth and keep it all to myself, I would eventually explode.
Does that make me a bitch?
November 9th, 2007 - 1:41 am
I dont think so,but maybe that is just cause i am the same way
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November 9th, 2007 - 1:42 am
Amazon Queen AntiBarbie…love it.
I get like that at times too, it’s a part of me that I ‘m not a huge fan of…wastes a tremendous amount of energy as well as brain cells. I think once you start to see more of the “good” with the “bad” in tuime it starts to slide off the “things i HAVE to reply to and do..RIGHT NOW’ list.
Overall though, give yourself a break you are human
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November 9th, 2007 - 3:24 am
Hahaha…but you see AntiBarbie, I think that’s part of the things that make you so uniquely you! Some people are able to express themselves in a way that gets the point across, but is not bitchy, it’s just honest. I have a lot of respect for people like that.
I think being raised in So Cal has made me more passive aggressive, I find ways to let others know how I feel by hinting at it, and I hate it. I think it’s also the Asian side of me that tells me that I shouldn’t be directly rude to people, so I think passive aggressiveness can be worse!
Ah, I think your way is much better!
November 9th, 2007 - 3:30 am
If it does, then I guess we are all guilty of that some time or another. I sometimes feel like I have to say something because nobody else will. But sometimes the reason other people don’t say anything is because it just isn’t worth it and you really don’t have to worry because that person who is being the doofus really isn’t swaying anyone into their way of thinking. So it’s okay to drop it and that is what a lot of people do. So it just depends on how I’m feeling when thosethings hit me. So yeah, you can be bitchy sometimes. So can’t we all. So that is how we get things done when it is used constructively.
That doesn’t mean you ARE a bitch.
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November 9th, 2007 - 3:35 am
I used to be like you too — I wanted my displeasure to be known to all — but that was until I learned that it might not be a good thing after all. I’ve got friends and superiors and seniors who told me that being quick with my tongue could land me in trouble, though I’ve never landed myself in hot soup until now, LOL.
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November 9th, 2007 - 3:57 am
Kaylee:
It’s hard for me NOT to speak my mind. I will hold my tongue when out in public for some odd reason but that’s it.
November 9th, 2007 - 4:01 am
Mighty Morgan:
I wish I could say I was headed in that direction but I am grasping at straws for the good.
November 9th, 2007 - 4:07 am
Oh, I love a good argument, and nothing satisfies me more than stuffing a dumb person’s face in it. But, as I get older, I’ve become one of those people who sees something like what set you off, and passes on. I’m not saying it won’t get me irritated, but my days of sending angry letters, e-mails, and message board posts are over. No, you are not a bitch as many of us get angry at the stuff we see. -Mike
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November 9th, 2007 - 4:10 am
Jackqueline Lou:
Passive aggressive, eh? I live with one and you people drive me insane!
Seriously, though, sometimes I can tell he’s angry but don’t even have a clue WHY because he doesn’t speak up about why he’s upset. He just gets snarky and brooding and I have to play 20 questions.
I do think my snarkiness is a part of what makes me me, I just wish it wasn’t such a compulsion. You know?
November 9th, 2007 - 4:20 am
Oh yeah, totally bitch.
(j/k of course)
My wife is the same way and people brand her that, but in reality she’s ultra-passionate about everything and doesn’t like to ride along. She’s got to let it out or else, well, she will explode. Me, I can watch people say and do dumb shit all day long and let it roll off my back. That, however, has not always worked to my advantage. I’d say being forthright and truthful is the way to go and no, you are not a bitch. People say dumb shit all the time and they don’t even realize it until they’re pissed the wrong person off. consider yourself lucky in a way. Many people get walked on because they don’t say what’s on their mind.
You used the word “snarky.” Man, I need to work that into one of my posts.
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November 9th, 2007 - 4:21 am
teeni:
I don’t like not talking about the elephant in the room but I have looked away at times. I know that telling a disturbed person that they have issues won’t make them see it or seek help so I leave it alone but man, some of the people I’ve come across make my paranoid schizophrenic uncle seem sane and that’s pretty scary.
November 9th, 2007 - 4:22 am
pelf:
I’ve landed in it before but somehow I always get myself back out. Thank god for my quick wit or I’d be screwed!
November 9th, 2007 - 6:25 am
Most of the time, when I read something that rubs me the wrong way, I just ‘write’ an angry comment in my head and then I pass on, but there are times I have to respond. I don’t know if it’s the cancer in me or what, but I’m seldomly sarcastic. I try to be polite and that makes my comment lose it’s edge, and nobody get’s my point. So I learned it’s better to be angry and really show it or you can just pass on and let it be.
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November 9th, 2007 - 6:39 am
I hate confrontations and I’d definitely do my best to extend my patience. But then if I am being trampled upon, then I stand up and fight
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November 9th, 2007 - 12:27 pm
My bloke is passive aggressive too, it drives me insane, I prefer it if people express themselves, at least I know where I stand.
I am one of the worst people at getting really annoyed at what others say. I used to get into long arsed debates constantly - now I try and steer clear. I can be extremely sarcastic but it’s better for my stress levels if I just avoid confrontations
I’ve noticed myself writing out replies then forcing myself to delete them rather than post them. It works, at times. I’m a lot better than I used to be - but actually, it is because I’m a mean bitch 
I often come across people on blogcatalog that piss me the hell off but I “usually” ignore them, saves a lot of time in the long run. I’m the kind of person that argues - then moves on but most people aren’t like that and get at everything you say so it tends to be easier to just stay on the outside. I’m not really a people person
November 9th, 2007 - 2:56 pm
Susie:
I think it does give a person less of an edge although shows a lot of class.
November 9th, 2007 - 3:04 pm
hey antibarbie
i can relate with the first line on your blog entry, ‘when i’m good, i’m very good, but when i’m bad, watch out!’
like you, i can be very good, but if people try my patience i can be very mean too and i can’t avoid but show my ‘inner bitch’ as what you call it. :p it frees me from that suffocating feeling. sometimes when i get mad, but i don’t want to upset the person, because i care about them…and so that’s another story…i then run away, try to cool down and move on. so it’s more like who are involve with the situation.
hmmm…so, that’s not bitchy…that’s honesty.
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November 9th, 2007 - 3:09 pm
shiera:
I try to have patience. In some situations I can bite my tongue for a really long time but other times…. I just want to haul off and whack someone upside the head and say, “What is wrong with you?!”
November 9th, 2007 - 3:12 pm
clairec23:
Passive aggressive is so hard to live with. I’ve dragged things that are bothering him out of him four months after they’ve happened! I’m not talking about big things ether but small, stupid stuff like forgetting the grocery list! How are you going to hold onto something that stupid for that long? That would make me crazy.
November 9th, 2007 - 3:46 pm
Isn’t it horrible?! I thought I was the only one who thinks that’s insane! He sits there and I KNOW there’s something wrong and he’ll deny it and it’ll do my nut in and then months later when I’ve forgotten about it he’ll go, remember that day…and tell me what was up his arse, it drives me demented because I’m the kind of person that has to blurt everything out. He hates that too, he wishes I was like him and just kept things quiet. I feel sorry for him because it must be hard to live with me too and I sort of feel like I’m a bully for wanting to have everything out but I just don’t think it’s healthy to keep everything in like that.
By the way, I’ve been having trouble for a few days now trying to comment on your blog, but it’s been perfect today so I’m inclined to think it must have been my end that was the problem.
November 9th, 2007 - 3:48 pm
Mr. Grudge:
I hear you. I really enjoy a good debate myself!
November 9th, 2007 - 4:04 pm
pete:
Snarky is a great word isn’t it?
November 9th, 2007 - 4:05 pm
Lizeth:
You sound a lot like me. I am a nice person most of the time. I don’t go looking for fights but some people just behave in such a horribly rude or toxic manner that I can’t help but feel disgust and it just bubbles over.
November 9th, 2007 - 4:14 pm
Dawn, you are woman after my own heart. I’m like you, I will get in your face and let you have it without reservation. However, I do temper myself somewhat in blogworld. I know the feeling you have shared all too well. Perhaps I just need to let it hangout a little more. Being nice all the time takes effort.
CYA…
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November 9th, 2007 - 4:41 pm
clairec23:
Yeah, it is horrible. It’s like a big game. They are sitting there with a stick up their butt and yet keep denying that anything is wrong to the bitter end… why? I mean they KNOW we realise they are upset over something why keep denying it when even if you do back off, the attitude doesn’t stop?
The thing you need to remind him Claire, is that he is NOT keeping quiet or to himself. If he were, you wouldn’t know there was a problem! He is perpetuating his anger and allowing it to fester by not trying to resolve the issue. My guy does the same thing… That can not be healthy at all. I bet their blood pressure has to be sky high!
November 9th, 2007 - 4:48 pm
Hawk:
Being nice all the time isn’t necessary. Just be yourself
November 9th, 2007 - 5:48 pm
No. You are NOT a BITCH. You are a smart outspoken person with a strong will. And THAT is a GOOD thing.
“My response to their post was so venomously sarcastic that if I had spit on the floor during that time, I think it probably would have worn a hole right through the wood.”
GREAT LINE
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November 9th, 2007 - 5:57 pm
meleah rebeccah:
Strong will is a nice way of saying stubborn and I agree. I am. Back when I was fourteen and having some issues my Mom forced me to visit a psychiatrist and he nicknamed me ‘The General’ because I never back down from a war.
November 9th, 2007 - 8:14 pm
Are you into astrology thing ? If yes, even just a bit, think of a mixture of aries (westerner zodiac) with a dragon (chinese zodiac)..
How did I cure (not complete, but at least large parts of harming-myself-actions) ?
While online (`coz this`s what is about in your post) :
Everytime something I see-read-feel I`m going red and think I have to say something back (no matter it wasn`t pointed to me), I open my text editor and compose the reply. Save it on pc after I add as last line the exact address of article. Next, I go forward reading something else, browsing the net or whatever else I had in mind to do after. After some time (even next day) I re-read my reply (the text document), add or cut if is the case and go to that address see who else had allready replied and what. Again update the text and save it for next term. next time repeating the operations. Often happen this time I`ll have a “bleah, f*** it, who cares?” in mind.
If not, then … BITCH the bastard !!
:-)(-:
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November 9th, 2007 - 8:28 pm
Hell no, I say more venom. I’ve always believed the only way these people are going to learn is if someone calls them on it. If you managed to make the argument quality enough to force them to apologize, then you’ve done something brilliant (and nearly impossible over the internet.)
As long as the facts are behind you, march on.:)
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November 9th, 2007 - 11:02 pm
I too find my fingers curling in a fist many times a day. Its ok, you know why? We might get called ‘a bitch’ quite often, but what we do not get called is a pushover, unethical, moron, brain dead or stupid. Works for me, and I’m sure it will work for you as well.
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November 9th, 2007 - 11:21 pm
I’m a strong believer in Sturgeon”s Law: 90% of everything is bull. In a world where “originality” so often becomes the art of concealing your sources, it’s easy to dismiss most claims and entreaties as inspired hogwash, and go on from there, sans any bellicose language.
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November 10th, 2007 - 12:50 am
Oh i never heesitate to speak my mind!
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November 10th, 2007 - 3:19 am
valentin:
I am a cancer and in the chinese zodiac, a snake.
November 10th, 2007 - 3:20 am
karloff:
You’re right. If there are never any negative consequences, how will someone ever learn?
November 10th, 2007 - 3:21 am
ana:
Actually I can be a pushover too, but only with my close friends and loved ones. I am a virtual doormat. Talk about running hot and cold, huh?
November 10th, 2007 - 3:22 am
Jack Payne:
I think Sturgeon was being generous. I say it’s 99% bull and 1% hot air!
November 10th, 2007 - 3:24 am
Kaylee:
I bet it’s good for your health. All the people who snap and go on killing sprees are always described as quiet.
November 10th, 2007 - 3:56 am
LOL I would never do that hahah!
November 10th, 2007 - 2:57 pm
Nah, not a bitch.
Through Blog Mad, I came upon some guy with a photo on his site of three fat, older disabled women in scooters, and he labeled it “twats”–and I jumped his shit, but fairly politely. (My thing is to rationally deconstruct something, making the person look stupid. I asked him why they had earned the title “twats” rather than something else?) He followed me to MY blog, where I then cussed him out. But you know, I felt I couldn’t let that kind of disgusting act pass. Better to feel strongly than to be lukewarm, and I won’t quote chapter and verse here, but I got that from Somebody Else.
Love ya, and keep telling it like it is.
November 10th, 2007 - 4:14 pm
Kaylee:
“Nor I..” says AntiBarbie as she polishes a large rifle with a distant look in her eyes. hehehe
November 10th, 2007 - 4:18 pm
DaisyDeadhead:
Actually, those are usually the ones I don’t bother with. By their complete lack of understanding any social etiquette, I know that they are too fucking stupid to even comprehend my comments or anything that is not written at a third grade level for that matter. There’s just no way I could dumb myself down enough to get through to them short of traumatic brain injury.
November 12th, 2007 - 3:16 am
At first I thought you were a mean chick…then I took a second and looked in to your eyes.
Crap I’m gettin’ lost here.
What was I sayin’.
(Don’t feel bad, I had to stay off the BC forums…too many kids going unmoderated around there mostly.)
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November 12th, 2007 - 1:09 pm
JohnC:
Do cartoon eyes reduce most men to jelly? hehehehe
November 12th, 2007 - 8:34 pm
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