That time has rolled around once again. The ‘Question of the Week’ has come upon us once again and I’m looking forward to finding out if you are a people person and why. At the chance of sounding like a completely antisocial witch, I can honestly say that I am not. Looking back, I have always kind of been that way. I remember when I was in preschool that I gave my Mom a hard time about going because I didn’t like my classmates.
I also tend to be socially awkward. I am able to get along with many different types of people and blend in quite effectively but I am not comfortable going out of my way to introduce myself to strangers.
The problem is that I just don’t know what to say. I abhor trying to be witty and fun under pressure. Perhaps I am just a wierdo, really but I’d rather get a root canal than endure small talk about politics, sports, or god forbid, the whole fashion/Hollywood scene. (Yuck, just yuck.)
I’ve also found that I don’t have a whole lot in common with most of the women I meet around here. I hate to say it because it does sound so snobby but they tend to annoy or bore the hell out of me. Perhaps I need an attitude adjustment. Maybe I need to bite the bullet and learn to tolerate discussing designer shoes and Britney Spears without wanting to put a gun to my head. Then again, maybe I just need to just relocate to my own planet. I hear Mars is nice this time of year. So, are you a people person? Why or why not?
March 1st, 2008 - 4:21 pm
Not so much as in the past. I’ve seen their work.
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March 1st, 2008 - 5:02 pm
I think I am much more one than I used to be. I am more comfortable with small talk and introducing myself. This is odd coming from someone who barely spoke through most of her schooling years. But one day I had an epiphany and realized I had to stand up for myself, speak up for myself, and just generally make myself comfortable or it was never going to happen. Now I’ve put my foot in my mouth numerous times while attempting to get better at this social stuff, but I’ve also learned to laugh at myself, to accept that some people will just never like me no matter what I do (so I don’t waste my time on them), and I’ll never be a public speaker cuz that terrifies me. But if I walk into a crowded room, I can usually force myself to start up conversations and introduce myself and get along okay. The worst thing is walking in first and taking everything in. Sometimes I have to give myself another minute to prepare in which case I make an excuse to go hang my coat or something trivial. I go do that, take a deep breath and slowly reenter the room and I’ve usually got a better handle on things then. Amazingly enough, I never end up talking about fashion, sports or Hollywood. Somehow I can always find something to talk about - that has never been an issue. Maybe I saved up enough ideas when I was a young observant non-talker. LOL. Um, now the problem is getting me to stop.
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March 1st, 2008 - 5:04 pm
Yes and no. There are times I’m very sociable and can chat about any silly thing, but there are other times when I need to be alone and try to get out of all socializing whatsoever.
March 1st, 2008 - 5:26 pm
As outgoing as most people see me I am extremely shy with people I do not know. Most people I like but if I sense the first bit of ignorance then my mouth goes into overdrive. If you have nothing to say but gibberish then I am going to tell you. As far as chatting about inane things I just don’t do it. I would rather be around people that are NOT politically correct all the time.
March 1st, 2008 - 6:58 pm
I am shy, so at first no. But once I get to know people I can be quite sociable. And I am pretty good at reading people.
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March 1st, 2008 - 10:08 pm
My answer is certainly yes. However, we all need to be alone sometimes.
March 1st, 2008 - 11:30 pm
I was the shyest kid in the world until sometime after high school. I’m still quite but I make friends really easily now. Most of the new people I meet these days tend to be service people who are supposed to be doing their jobs but instead stop for hours and chat - restaurant servers, bartenders, retail people, strippers, etc.
March 1st, 2008 - 11:48 pm
I have always been a people person. I dont know why.
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March 1st, 2008 - 11:51 pm
if it makes you feel better, you’re my kind of people.
as for me, I am pseudo social. I am (in)famous for being a bright spark able to get along with anyone and everyone, problem is, I find it incredibly hard to make an acquaintance a friend. As of now I have only enough real tangible friends to fill one hand of a three toed sloth that has had an accident with a power tool and I’m completely happy with that!
ok so other bloggers like yourself are my friends but I can’t really reach out and touch you so it’s not quite the same..
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March 2nd, 2008 - 2:58 pm
Nope. Not a people person.
March 2nd, 2008 - 3:24 pm
I do not mind people, as long as they do not stand too close to me. Or talk to me. Or breathe in my general direction.
March 2nd, 2008 - 7:15 pm
I’m quite sociable except when dealing with assholes/idiots/etc.
I can get along just fine with nice people - heck, they don’t even have to be nice, just bearable - but when the people are just outright annoying then I can’t stand them.
I find the key is to make eye contact, agree, and nod a lot.
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March 3rd, 2008 - 3:45 am
Sometimes, but most of the time I act like that.
I don’t want to talk to other people. i just say hi and hello. Maybe it depends on my mood for that day and on the kind of person in front of me.
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March 3rd, 2008 - 11:57 am
I’m not a people person, I can endure small talk sometimes but usually I try to avoid the company of people if they are my type. I work from my home office, avoid the social scene and when I meet people once in a while I can be quit funny as it is not an everyday thing.
I decided I deserve to be surrounded by my kind of people no matter what the social price and relocated myself to the area I feel best in, insisted on a job that I can do from home as I wasn’t interested in mingling and getting along all day as a second job.
All this came with a price but I am free now, I have friends that I really love and appreciate, I see people only if and when we really want to see each other and people say I’ve become a person that it is fun to be with as I don’t have to be with anyone.
March 3rd, 2008 - 4:20 pm
I’m not a people person. I mean, I have a couple of good friends. But I’m not all about building my address book. And I especially like to be alone from the time I wake up until about 10:30–because I’m not a morning person either!
My husband thinks I just tolerate him until I’ve had an opportunity to get my alone time in the morning.
March 3rd, 2008 - 7:20 pm
I am a people person if my biorhythm says so.
Seriously. I go from:
PEOPLE person –> FAMILY person –> SOLITARY person…
and then it starts all over again.
Great blog, thanks for your candor!
Tamara
PS You’ve been tagged by Poe-Query.
Joannie tagged me.
She explains that it’s from an old Hemingway bet. Leave it to Papa. From her blog:
“Here are the rules:
1. Write your own six word memoir.
2. Post it on your blog and include a visual illustration if you’d like.
3. Link to the person that tagged you in your post and to this original
post if possible so we can track it as it travels across the blogosphere.
4. Tag five more blogs with links.
5. And don’t forget to leave a comment on the tagged blogs with an
invitation to play!”
Hence, my six-word autobiography:
Tell me I can’t? I will.
Now, I tag Dorlana Vann, Dawn, Zathyn, Adam, and D.
March 4th, 2008 - 3:22 am
@Everyone:
I can totally see how some of my regulars are real social butterflies and others are a bit more of a hermit (like myself) but I was pleasantly surprised to see how many new people came by and left some insightful thoughts on their own life experiences. It’s all made for a very interesting read.
By the way, you are my kind of people too Andy. I love techie folks, after all I’ve been a computer geek for about, well, forever… oh and Lord Likely, that was a really hilarious zinger, kudos to you!
March 5th, 2008 - 6:02 am
I tell my friends that I hate people. Mostly that’s true only because I can’t bring myself to speak to strangers and find it easier to stand back and make fun of them. Sure, this makes me cowardly but by god has it sharpened my wit.
March 24th, 2008 - 12:01 am
I know I’m a bit late to the (socially awkward) party here… But you’ve described me perfectly in this post. I suspect you have this in common with many of your readers.
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