I have never done this before but I am going to suggest that all the under aged kiddos skip this article. That’s right, you heard me, Vamoose! I want to talk about a rather adult subject that tends to offend quite a few people but I am only writing about it because of the conversation I had last night.
My friend called me up hysterical that her husband was cheating on her. At first I was outraged for her plight and wanted to go hunt him down and take a spork to his potatoes but when I asked what happened I was quite surprised by her response.
She told me she found pictures on his computer. “Of him with some girl?”, I asked. No. They weren’t of him. “Of some woman who took sexy pictures for him?” No was the response. The pictures were all from some lesbian sex site.
I really didn’t know how to reply. I found myself wanting to say “and?” and pausing to see if there was some damning information I had yet to hear. I’ve always known she had some serious insecurities to the point of acting somewhat childish so I wasn’t surprised that she was offended by the pictures.
She used to tell her husband “Why don’t you just go get her number?” if she thought he glanced at another living soul while we were out in public but I hadn’t thought she would start spouting off about leaving him. She was completely enraged.
I am probably going to get a lot of heat from saying this but I honestly don’t think that a person looking at dirty pictures is cheating or that looking at another attractive woman is a capital offense. It’s a perfectly normal part of human nature to fantasize or feel a tinge of lust over an exquisite beauty.
After all, being married doesn’t make one dead to the world around them. People are going to have the same carnal thoughts that they did beforehand. To me those kinds of pictures are just that, a fantasy created for men.
I don’t know about anyone else but I enjoy some rather provocative daydreams that have nothing to do with the man I am with and I drool over some of the hunks Hollywood has produced. I’ve even watched some rather saucy videos from time to time.
It doesn’t mean I don’t love the person I am with or that I’m not 100% committed to him. I just have a very healthy appetite and an overactive imagination. Not that he seems to mind. Thank goodness because jealousy is so overrated.
So, there’s my take on it. What are your thoughts?
